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How to Communicate Online

How do you Communicate Online? Do you talk about good things? This morning I woke up thinking about all the ways we could communicate better as a business. In other words, I woke up thinking about my job!! Okay, I know, I am an overachiever got-to-find-a-way-to-fix-things person. Heck, I can’t help it. I was born this way!

Without physically seeing and being with each other and feeling the person’s energy isn’t working on Zoom or any other online tool. You can never replace physically being in someone’s presence and looking them in the eyes, feeling their energy, watching for gestures, and movements that tell the complete story.

Digital communication is superficial and will never replace face-to-face interaction.

I was in a restaurant on my travels to the mountains a few weeks ago, and the server told me how much he missed his girlfriend, who is unable to travel from her hometown in Romania to see him in the States due to COVID. They haven’t physically seen each other for nine months. “I talk to her every night on Zoom, and my heart aches because I want to marry her, but I don’t want to propose over the Internet,” he said.

We are all struggling to communicate in meaningful ways, and it is taking a heavy toll on our society.

How well do you know your loved ones, friends, and work colleagues?

What are the good things you know about them?

Have you ever bothered to ask a friend what they love about life or what they feel is their real-life purpose? How about the next time you see them in person, not on Zoom, you compliment them about something good they have done or something you have heard about them that is wonderful.

“I heard something amazing about you!”

More often, we spill out negative stuff in conversations with our family and friends. The woe is me stories about our aches and pains or other health issues, our broken dreams, our messed up love life, or how much we hate our job. We start to build relationships on our troubles and inadequacies. The more we talk about these things, the worse they get because we are giving more power and more negative energy to the universe. Remember, you get back what you put out, so let’s stop the negative chatter.

The next time you physically see your friend, don’t ask how they are doing; this opens the door to negativity. Tell them a positive story and compliment them on something good you have heard about them or noticed about how they live their life.

I’m going to start implementing new ideas of communication at my workplace. Being a remote company, we have no choice other than to use a digital format like Zoom right now. I think I’ll have a pass the mic session where everyone has 5 mins to tell us something amazing about themselves and what inspires them.

Perhaps we could get out a pen and paper and send our loved ones, friends and workmates a letter or card of appreciation and do it the old fashioned way – mail it!

Prue’s quote of the day. “Start your conversations with a statement like this….I heard something amazing about you today.”

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Prudence Sinclair

Identify Those Things You CAN Control

There are a lot of things about the holidays that are out of your control. You will most likely hear other people cheerily talking about their holiday plans and you’ll be bombarded with Christmas music pretty much everywhere you go.

But there are some things you can control that will help you lessen your pain and grief. For instance, if you live alone and don’t feel like decorating your house or a tree this year, that’s okay, you don’t have to do it. If you want to avoid crowds and do minimal shopping online, then that’s what you need to do.

Don’t focus on what you can’t control and instead identify those things you CAN control during the holidays.
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Identify Those Things You CAN Control

There are a lot of things about the holidays that are out of your control. You will most likely hear other people cheerily talking about their holiday plans and you’ll be bombarded with Christmas music pretty much everywhere you go.

But there are some things you can control that will help you lessen your pain and grief. For instance, if you live alone and don’t feel like decorating your house or a tree this year, that’s okay, you don’t have to do it. If you want to avoid crowds and do minimal shopping online, then that’s what you need to do.

Don’t focus on what you can’t control and instead identify those things you CAN control during the holidays.

Say “NO” When You Need To

There were times during my treatment when I knew I absolutely could not be around anyone. I just didn’t have it in me. And then there were times when I thought I didn’t have it in me, but I pushed myself to be social anyway, and being around friends and loved ones made me feel better and brought me out of my funk.

You need to know what you need in the moment. If you KNOW you are in too dark of a place and you need to be alone and quiet, then say NO to those holiday parties and get togethers. But if you check in with yourself and you don’t get a resounding NO but more of a, “Mmm, I don’t know, I don’t really feel like it…” then it may be if you give yourself a little nudge, you’ll wind up having a good time that LIFTS YOUR SPIRITS!
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Say “NO” When You Need To

There were times during my treatment when I knew I absolutely could not be around anyone. I just didn’t have it in me. And then there were times when I thought I didn’t have it in me, but I pushed myself to be social anyway, and being around friends and loved ones made me feel better and brought me out of my funk.

You need to know what you need in the moment. If you KNOW you are in too dark of a place and you need to be alone and quiet, then say NO to those holiday parties and get togethers. But if you check in with yourself and you don’t get a resounding NO but more of a, “Mmm, I don’t know, I don’t really feel like it…” then it may be if you give yourself a little nudge, you’ll wind up having a good time that LIFTS YOUR SPIRITS!

2 days ago

Prudence Sinclair

Don’t Deny Your Feelings

It’s the holidays and everyone seems to be in such good moods, and you hate to spoil the fun with your darkness. You don’t want to feel dark; you want to feel like everyone else seems to.

Denying feelings is an impulse for many (if not most) people. But it’s not healthy and it will truly only make things worse. When we don’t process our feelings, they tend to linger.
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Don’t Deny Your Feelings

It’s the holidays and everyone seems to be in such good moods, and you hate to spoil the fun with your darkness. You don’t want to feel dark; you want to feel like everyone else seems to.

Denying feelings is an impulse for many (if not most) people. But it’s not healthy and it will truly only make things worse. When we don’t process our feelings, they tend to linger.

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Prudence Sinclair

Whether you are dealing with your own health crisis, have a loved one who is, or have recently lost someone you love, coping with grief during the holidays can make you feel like you are in a nightmarish funhouse. Everything seems to move in slow motion, people have plastered smiles on their faces, holiday music seems to play from every corner of the Universe, and all you feel like doing is crying.

You are not alone during this time. Sadly, there are many people who are facing loneliness, grief and depression during the holidays.
While there is no magic wand or silver bullet that will make the pain go away, there are some things I have found that make coping a little bit easier:

- Don’t Deny Your Feelings
- Say “NO” When You Need To
- Identify Those Things You CAN Control
- Ask for Help
- Help Others
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Whether you are dealing with your own health crisis, have a loved one who is, or have recently lost someone you love, coping with grief during the holidays can make you feel like you are in a nightmarish funhouse. Everything seems to move in slow motion, people have plastered smiles on their faces, holiday music seems to play from every corner of the Universe, and all you feel like doing is crying.

You are not alone during this time. Sadly, there are many people who are facing loneliness, grief and depression during the holidays. 
While there is no magic wand or silver bullet that will make the pain go away, there are some things I have found that make coping a little bit easier:

- Don’t Deny Your Feelings 
- Say “NO” When You Need To 
- Identify Those Things You CAN Control 
- Ask for Help 
- Help Others
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