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Are You Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To?

Are You Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To?

The Buddha once said, what we think, we become.
It’s a very simple concept to understand and yet a very difficult practice to master. Most of us are aware that we feel a certain way or that our lives seem to be going in a certain direction, but we have no idea how we got where we are. We always get where we are because we focus our attention on certain things and then experience the results. If we don’t like the results we are living, we’d better shift our attention onto something better.

Letting Go of Fear

Are you spending most of your life focusing on things that scare you? Not having enough to cover the mortgage or wondering if you marriage is over? If you focus on these things long enough you start to dwell on them, meaning you live there, inside of the negativity and fear. Negativity and fear become as real and solid to you as the four walls of your house.

When I was first diagnosed with cancer I was scared out of my bleeping mind! How can you not be terrified when doctors are telling you you have 3 months to live? But if I had chosen to spend those 3 months living in that fear, I would have created the very thing I feared – my demise – when what I wanted to do was create health. I could not have created health by paying attention to my illness. I could not have created joy if I was paying attention to sorrow. And I could not have created gratitude if I was paying attention to the ‘oh woe is me’ voice that was chirping away all of the time in my head.

Letting Go of Anger

How much time would you say you spend every day going over and over the things in your head that pi** you off or make you feel disrespected? Do you spend most of your commute time preparing yourself for a day filled with angry interactions with your boss and coworkers and then replay those interactions all the way home? Why do you suppose those interaction happened in the first place? Could it be because you were so focused on them to begin with? You were so focused that you FULLY EXPECTED those angry interactions to happen. And they happened. And now you will expect more angry interactions and those will happen too, which will cause you to fully expect even more interactions to happen. The only way this vicious cycle will end is if you start paying attention to what you’re paying attention to. In this case, your anger.
Anger helps to bring about dis-ease. If you’re spending a majority of your life angry and aren’t even aware of it, you’re setting yourself up for bad, bad things – trust me.

Show Your Ego Who’s Boss

Most of the negative emotions we give our attention to are a direct result of our egos running our lives. It was our ego that became defensive when someone at work disagreed with our idea. It was our ego that got bent out of shape when that idiot on the highway cut us off. And it was our ego that got its feelings hurt when our spouse didn’t notice we got a haircut.

Getting control over our egos starts by paying more attention to what our egos are feeling every day. When we feel angry – we can either quickly react to it – or stop, breathe, and figure out where that emotion is coming from.

If we feel scared or apprehensive about something – we can either react to it – or stop, breathe, and figure out why we are feeling this way.

Here’s what I know from personal experience – we have the power to transform our lives and create what we really want – whether that’s superior health, wealth, relationships… whatever. But the first step to all transformation is awareness, and that means paying attention to how you act, what you think and feel throughout the day.

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Just the simple act of paying attention to our thoughts and feelings empowers us to change our lives.

Stop giving so much focus and attention to the things in your life that are no longer serving you. Once you start paying attention to what you’re paying attention to, you change who you are being in your life and how you are experience the world.

Get ready to show your ego who’s boss. Start a meditation practice. Learn more by downloading the Goody Bag here.

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Prudence Sinclair

Good morning, lovely you!

As we feel the emotional demands stacking up, it's more important than ever to set aside time to meditate and center oneself.
Sort through your priorities. Decide what you want to pursue, or how you want to handle something that's been bothering you.

If the family house is too busy and hectic, try escaping to a place outside for a bit. Go for a walk, lie down in a dark room, whatever you need to do to let your brain quiet down for a bit and really reflect
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Good morning, lovely you! 

As we feel the emotional demands stacking up, its more important than ever to set aside time to meditate and center oneself. 
Sort through your priorities. Decide what you want to pursue, or how you want to handle something thats been bothering you. 

If the family house is too busy and hectic, try escaping to a place outside for a bit. Go for a walk, lie down in a dark room,  whatever you need to do to let your brain quiet down for a bit and really reflect

3 days ago

Prudence Sinclair

It's the first day of December!
Christmas music is absolutely everywhere, and folks are calling it "the season of giving."

We don't always have to give material gifts - spending quality time with someone, reaching out, offering support - those are also ways to give to your family and friends. They're important parts of a relationship!
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Its the first day of December! 
Christmas music is absolutely everywhere, and folks are calling it the season of giving. 

We dont always have to give material gifts - spending quality time with someone, reaching out, offering support - those are also ways to give to your family and friends. Theyre important parts of a relationship!

4 days ago

Prudence Sinclair

You can't always have a good day.
The world won't always line up to put you at an advantage.
But you can always face a bad day with a good attitude, and in good faith.
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You cant always have a good day. 
The world wont always line up to put you at an advantage. 
But you can always face a bad day with a good attitude, and in good faith.

5 days ago

Prudence Sinclair

When you are overwhelmed, overstimulated, rushing around panicking and feeling guilty for not being productive enough or good enough.... those are the times when the most PRODUCTIVE thing you can do is take a break to relax.

It's very rare that we can do our best work when panicking, and rushed work means more mistakes and more 'doing things ever' which will end up costing you more time than if you had just carefully and slowly done the work the first time.

When you feel frazzled, overwhelmed - take a short break to take some centering breaths.
Take a break to relax your body.
Take a break to let the buzzing storm in your brain cool off to let you THINK.
Pet a cat, or step outside to listen to the wind.

I'll say it again:
Sometimes, the most productive thing you can do is to REST.
...

When you are overwhelmed, overstimulated, rushing around panicking and feeling guilty for not being productive enough or good enough.... those are the times when the most PRODUCTIVE thing you can do is take a break to relax. 

Its very rare that we can do our best work when panicking, and rushed work means more mistakes and more doing things ever which will end up costing you more time than if you had just carefully and slowly done the work the first time. 

When you feel frazzled, overwhelmed - take a short break to take some centering breaths. 
Take a break to relax your body. 
Take a break to let the buzzing storm in your brain cool off to let you THINK. 
Pet a cat, or step outside to listen to the wind. 

Ill say it again: 
Sometimes, the most productive thing you can do is to REST.
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